The subtle art of not giving a fuck

The Subtle Art of not giving a fuck by Mark Manson is an incredible book which defines self-help and a counterintuitive approach to live a good life. He starts by saying that one should stop focusing on being positive and happy all the time. 

Mark Manson says, Wanting positive experience is a negative experience and accepting negative experience is a positive experience referred to as “the backwards law” and that is the key to feel contented. As the title of the book says, it teaches you how not to give a damn about problems that are less significant to you and how to figure out your life which ultimately solves all the problems. It is crucial to know about what you’re choosing to find important and unimportant in life. The book illustrates examples on how to overcome or accept failure as a part of your life. 

“You can’t be an important and life-changing presence for some people without also being a joke and an embarrassment to others.” 

Thoughts about The Subtle Art of not giving a fuck

The Subtle Art of not giving a fuck gives you a comprehensive idea about all the emotions that we go through in our routine life. Each chapter comes up with unique concepts that make us interpret life easily. Problems remain a constant in life, but the keyword here is solving them. What he precisely stated was “Happiness is not a destination but it comes by solving your own problems”. As Manson puts it, what determines your success is not what you want to enjoy, but how much suffering you’re willing to sustain to get there. Once we embrace our fears, faults and once, we stop running and avoiding and start confronting painful truths, we can begin to find the courage to face any adversity.  

What do you want out of life? – is the question most people struggle to answer. But Manson explained it very easily. The very first question that you need to ask yourself is what are you willing to struggle for? This simply answers the above question. If you want to reach heights, then you need to be ready to experience pain and struggles. 

Using his own life as an example, Manson talks about situations that led him to drugs and womanizing. After facing back-to-back failures and rejections, he realized and cleaned up his act and worked for his betterment. He explains that if someone is better than you at something, it’s likely because he/she has failed at it many times than you have. This is something that could propel you to keep trying. 

He describes a concept called self-awareness onion which advises you to recognize your emotional blind spot. This is all about expressing the affected emotions appropriately to your significant others. Manson’s personal life problems inculcates a valuable lesson that you must appreciate even the small things in life. 


“There is a simple realization from which all personal improvement and growth emerges.  This is the realization that we, individually, are responsible for everything in our lives, no matter the external circumstances.” 

Manson also refers to several well-known personalities who followed a similar approach to overcome hindrances successfully. All these insightful and entertaining perspectives on life are what makes the book worth reading. 

This book is filled with insightful stories as well as harsh humour. It can alter perspectives of struggling generation to lead a fulfilled and blissful life. 

What I enjoyed about The Subtle Art of not giving a fuck – 

Reading this book was absolutely an eye-opener. It has changed my perspective to approach things. It made me feel like I wasn’t alone. Ever since I read this book, I have an intense feeling of motivation and strength to face any obstacles that approach my way. 

What I disliked about The Subtle Art of not giving a fuck –

What is there to dislike about this book when you learn how to choose your fucks wisely? I thoroughly enjoyed reading this book. If you are in search of a self-help book, then definitely pick The subtle art of not giving a fuck by Mark Manson.

‘Pain is an inextricable thread in the fabric of life, and to tear it out is not only impossible but destructive; attempting to tear it out unravels everything else with it. To try to avoid pain is to give too many fucks about pain. In contrast, if you’re able to not give a fuck about pain, you become unstoppable.’

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Mark Manson is the #1 New York Times Bestselling author of Everything is Fucked: A Book About Hope and The Subtle Art of Not Giving a Fuck: A Counterintuitive Approach to Living a Good Life, the mega-bestseller that reached #1 in fourteen different countries. Mark’s books have been translated into more than 50 languages and have sold over 12 million copies worldwide.

Mark runs one of the largest personal growth websites in the world,, a blog with more than two million monthly readers and half a million subscribers. His writing is often described as ‘self-help for people who hate self-help’ 

TITLE – The subtle art of not giving a fuck 

AUTHOR – Mark Manson 

GENRE – Self-help  

PUBLISHER – Harper One 




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